My ex won't help my son get the right level of ADD medication

I think a conference is in order for BOTH of u to attend TOGETHER. Bring all the people on ur side with u to the meeting & discuss the issue as adults. Your son is teacher(s) should be involved as well. Is his attention problem only happening when you've got him, or is it happening all the time? Surely with all the evidence & all the people on ur ''side,'' ur ex will come to her senses. It seems to me that if she is willing to medicate him at all, she'd be willing to medicate him properly. Not giving him the proper dose is pointless.

I understand why ur ex does not want ur child to have more meds. She probably does not want to have her child labeled with this ADD label. Personally I do not feel ADD is as common as they make it out to be. Talk to ur ex & tell her u r willing to change ur son is diet & try other non medicated ways of treating ur son, but if this fails u must up the meds. Did u know that Red dye #40 causes ADD like symptoms, as does caffenated soda, sugary cereals, candy, chips, etc. Put ur son on a well balanced diet & read those nutrition labels.
Also, u should be taking the time to look into ur son is condition yourself. Doctor is r quick to tell parents that their child has ADD because sometimes parents feel relief. Parent is begin to blame all of their child is behavior issues on the ADD & do not look into things such as diet.
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Also, u should probably get some more opinions from qualified physicians on whether ur son really had ADD or not.

I have met many children that have been diagnosed with ADD & I only believe one of them actually had ADD. Most of the parents fed their children sugary foods & such.

Good Luck!

Hopefully u & his mother r also using behavior techniques & strategies to help him learn to control his own behavior & not just relying on the meds. I am not against meds for kids with ADHD but just them alone is not enough.

Perhaps u could come to an agreement. Ask her if u can try the higher meds for 6 months while ur child is closely monitored for side effects. Ask her to work with u to come up with a way to determine if the higher dosage of meds r working. That is, before u up the dose, what criteria r u going to use to determine the success? You should not expect an overnight change but at the end of 6 months u should see improvements in grades perhaps, in the number of discipline reports from school, etc. You might want to get togather a data sheet for the teachers to use in counting how long he persists at a task or how many times he has to be redirected. These things should be done for him already.

Lastly, ask her what kinds of parenting things she wants u do differently. There is room to both improve parenting skills, up the dosage of medicines, & make sure ur child has good behavior management at school. ADHD needs to be attacked from many different angles.

However, if all else fails, u may indeed have to go to court or to mediation.

Good luck.

Generally the best way to ''convince'' someone, is by letting them think it up ''on their own''. Try asking her advice, asking leading questions, seeing what ideas she has. (Who knows, she might actually have some good ones.) If you give the honest impression that you respect her views, too, she is more likely to return the favor. Women can get pretty touchy about having their parenting critiqued. I know, I am a mother myself.

Go to court! The mother is not doing her job as a mother, and is, in effect abusing the child.
oh, and 125 for a 9 year old is a little too much..
check the child for diabetes, as well..

Try to rationalize with her, cuz other than court theres no other way